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25 Best Sex Toys (2023)

These are our favorite gender-inclusive vibrators, wand massagers, and sleeves to give you and your partner(s) a helping hand.

Sex technology has come a long way in the past decade, not only in terms of cultural acceptance and awareness, but also in terms of technology. Gone are the days of sex toys like clunky pink plastic bunny vibrators and fake action figures. Today’s toys are designed by sex educators, medical professionals, and the world’s greatest sex experts. Featuring premium medical-grade silicone, robust Bluetooth connectivity, programmable vibration patterns, and multiple motors, all designed to keep you entertained.

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There’s never a bad time to invest in a little more self-care. These are some of the most popular sex toys, vibrators, smart vibrators, personal massagers, and accessories that we have personally tested. There’s something here for everyone, every gender, and every body. Although the wording on these products is not necessarily gender-specific, we approached our testing with a gender-specificmindsetandtestedon a variety of genitals, bodies, and partners.

Be sure to check out our other bedroom guides, including the best vibrators,best lubes,best mattresses, and best sound machines.

Which Toys Are for My Body?

The vulva is the outer part of the vagina. Includes the labia majora, labia minora, urethra, and clitoris. The clitoris is the erogenous nerve center of the vulva and is much larger than just the outer part. Its internal structure extends to both sides of the vagina, where her G-spot is located (the area that is stimulated by toys that curve toward the front of her body).

The phallus, commonly referred to as the penile shaft, contains several different erogenous zones. The glans is the upper part of the phallus, commonly referred to as the “head,” and the frenulum is a thin strip of connective tissue on the underside of the glans that can be particularly sensitive to targeted stimuli. Last but not least, the anus is, yes, an asshole. The rectum is the internal part that connects to the anus. Both areas can be sensitive to internal and external stimuli.

For people assigned male at birth, there is an additional erogenous zone here – the prostate or P-spot. This is a walnut-sized gland located between the internal structures of the penis and rectum, which can be accessed with a toy that curves toward the front of the body.

Best Vibrator for Any Body

Have you ever heard the saying, “You eat with your eyes first?” Especially when it comes to sex toys. The look and feel of a sex toy has to be important to me. If you don’t look good, people won’t want to spend time with you. The Dame Dip Vibrator, like all of the company’s toys, is aesthetically pleasing. Beautiful color options include cool, calming periwinkle and rich, reddish plum. It fits voluptuously in the hand, all curved and concave, with a small peak in the center resembling the features of a vulva or frenulum. When viewed from the side, it looks a bit tongue-like, which is also cheeky.

Dip is a simple toy. A quiet waterproof silicone coated vibrator. You can feel the joy of using it in your hands, skin, and body. There’s a level of sophistication and design here that you won’t find in toys as cheap as Dip.

Another Great External Vibrator

This little vibrator has it all. This might be the most intense palm-sized vibrator we’ve ever tested. Although it only has three intensity settings, which is less than most toys on this list, the Mode Drop emphasizes quality over quantity. Each level provides deep and stimulating vibrations. However, you should be careful about the highest settings if you are particularly sensitive. It has a rumbling, powerful and fast sound, making it perfect for the end of a solo session. If you’re looking for something simple, discreet, and easy to access, this is a great vibrator.

Best Suction Toy for Most People

Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 Air Pulse Toy

The Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 lives up to its name. Versatile, powerful, and surprisingly gentle. The entire body of the Gen 3 is covered in soft silicone, making it easier to grip than previous versions. The buttons are all located on the back of the toy, where your fingertips would normally rest.

It’s a refined version of a proven design, and it certainly feels like one. There’s a lot of care and craftsmanship that went into making this toy, and I appreciate that. The mouth is removable so you can wash it or replace it with a new “liquid air” mouth. It’s a fun change to simulate a tapping sensation rather than a suction or air pulsating sensation. Gen 3 also has a built-in vibration function. Pressing his third button on the toy switches the vibration pattern, allowing you to increase the intensity in the middle of the action.

Perfect for any genital area.

Best Luxury Suction Toy

Lelo Sona 2 Cruise

Even if you’ve never used a suction toy before, suction toys can change your life. After testing dozens of suction toys, we can confidently say that the Sona 2 Cruise is the best high-end suction toy on the market. This is a work that I kept working on even outside of test time. The case fits my hand perfectly, the buttons are in the right place, and there are different strengths to suit almost every taste.

The cruise part of the name refers to Lelo’s cruise control technology, which increases the strength of the toy as you press it firmly against your body. This is a smart sex toy and the first one I would recommend to anyone looking to try something new.

Suitable for all bodies, suction stimulation targets the clitoris, frenulum, or nipples.

Best Wand Vibrator

Magic Wand Mini

The original cane was always a little bulky. Moreover, it is plugged into the wall and the presence of an extension cord has never improved the sexual relationship. Mini solves both problems. It’s small, fits easily in one hand, and doesn’t weigh much. It’s rechargeable, so you don’t have to fiddle with cables while using it. Plus, it offers a long battery life of 2.5 hours on a single charge.

The wide head of the wand creates a rumbling vibration that starts gently and builds up to a level that you can feel with your teeth. However, two great things happen to him here. First, the vibrating head of the vibrator is somewhat isolated from the rest of the wand, so your hands won’t get tired or numb from the vibrations. Secondly, the shape of the head allows you to use the flat end or edges to stimulate a wide range of each erogenous zone, but you can also use the edges for incredibly precise targeted stimulation. I have to say, the Magic Wand Mini is one of my new absolute favorites.

Perfect for any genital area.

Another Great Wand

Dame Com Wand Vibrator

Dame’s take on the classic cane (8/10, recommendation) literally offers a new perspective on an old favorite. Most canes are straight, and there is nothing straight in the human body, so using a cane to reach the most sensitive areas can be very awkward. The Com offers an elegant solution. The bar handle is ergonomically angled so the toy has a full reach. However, the battery life may need some tweaking. It can only be used for about 1 hour on a single charge.

Best Sex Machine for Most People

Motorbunny Buck

Generally, there are two types of home sex machines. Some have a toy attached to the end of the robot’s push arm, while others sit like a saddle and the seat and attached toy vibrate. Motorbunny Buck He plays two roles (Our recommendation 8/10). It is a Sybian-like machine that can also thrust.

Buck features a vibrating seat with a vertical toy attachment that can be moved back and forth. You can control both stimulations with the included controller, and honestly you can experience pleasure that you can’t get with other toys. It’s a truly unique experience. All home sex machines are expensive, so its dual functionality makes it a great option for those interested in home sex machines. Here you will get at least twice the profit for your money.

Perfect for all genitals, internal and external stimulation.

Best Grinding Vibrator

Fun Factory Laya III

While many sex toys are designed for penetration, the Laya III emphasizes external pressure. You can lie on your stomach and use the vibrations to cover your erogenous zones, or you can work handheld. The toy vibrates and makes a “thud” sound at the same time, giving it a unique feel. The multisensory sensations can be as intense as you want, but with 7 different speeds and he is also capable of gentle stimulation with 3 different programs. I also appreciate that it has a travel lock so that my carry-on baggage doesn’t start ringing by itself. – Laurin Strampe

Stimulates all genitals.

A Thoughtfully Designed Phallus Ring

MysteryVibe Tenuto Mini

The Tenuto Mini (Our recommendation 6/10) is the successor to MysteryVibe’s original Tenuto, a slightly larger and chunkier sex toy designed to stimulate the penis and surrounding area. Two of his guys on our team tested an older version and found it a bit difficult to use. With Tenuto Mini, MysteryVibe has addressed some of these issues and made the toy better.

The new version is much smaller (hence the “mini”) and acts as a phallic ring with additional bells and whistles. It wraps around the base of the penis and has three vibrating motors, two on the sides and one on the top. The body is semi-rigid, but flexible enough to fit comfortably around an erect penis. WIRED reviewer Eric Ravenscraft says it’s perfect for penetrative sex, where it can be used alone or with a partner to rest (and vibrate). You can control it through the app, so you don’t have to worry about sliding your hand between you and your partner to change speed or intensity.

An Approachable Glass Dildo

Kindred Black Violet Duchess Glass Dildo

Kindred Black’s sexual wellness catalog is full of gorgeous items like the Violet Duchess seen here, but this is one of my personal favorites. Glass sex toys have a long history. It’s non-toxic and non-porous, making it easy to clean and more durable than you might expect. The smooth body absorbs various lubricants well, providing a gentle and sensual experience whether you are alone or with a partner. However, it is not suitable for anal use as it is not flared. Another great thing about glass sex toys is that they serve as elegant decorations when not in use.

A Functional Work of Art

Kindred Black Brancusi Piccino Obsidian Phallus

Obsidian is a very beautiful material, but I have never seen a sex toy made from it before this one from Brancusi Piccino. It’s so black that it appears to be absorbing ambient light, but under the right lighting it reveals minerals that were trapped inside when volcanic glass first formed and cooled millions of years ago. You can see the silver thread. It seems like an odd choice for a sex toy, but it’s so beautiful that it feels like it’s on a pedestal rather than a bedside table. But don’t worry, this is a functional piece of art.

The smooth volcanic glass body absorbs lube like any other glass toy, but it’s a bit thick, so be sure to move it slowly. It has a phallic shape, so it has a wide bottom that is safe for use in the anus. However, we recommend caution when using silicone or water-based lubricants, as they can make the glass very slippery. Since it is non-porous, it is very easy to clean and disinfect, just wash it thoroughly with your hands or detergent.

Best Incognito Vibrator

Voila Bob the Alien Vibrator

The Bob the Alien vibrator doesn’t look like a sex toy. It glows even in the dark! But it’s a small wand vibrator. Alien’s flexible silicone head has a built-in vibrator with 10 different settings. Magnetic charging and complete waterproofing complete the package. Bonus: TSA agents don’t know about this. – Lauryn Strampe.

Discreet and Stylish

Crave Vesper Vibrator

Sex toys are often relegated to closets, drawers, and hidden places to keep them away from prying eyes. Keep it secret and safe. Gandalf knew what he was talking about. However, there is something different about this toy. It’s something to wear, not something to hide – like Evenstar. Crave’s Vesper is a sleek and powerful vibrator that doubles as an eye-catching statement necklace.

Even if you don’t carry it with you when you go out, it’s a very capable little thing. Although it only has two vibration modes (continuous vibration and pulsation), it’s surprisingly powerful and quiet for something this small. The pointed shape is suitable for targeted stimulation, and the vibrations are so powerful that you can feel them deep within your body. However, please do not put it inside your body. Vesper is a toy intended exclusively for external use. Bold and understated, stylish and delicate. But above all, it’s a functional addition to your collection.

Pocket-Sized and Approachable

Dame Pom Flexible Vibrator

Look at this little thing! Sweet and friendly. One of my favorites from Dame Products (8/10, WIRED Recommend), the Pom is a pocket-sized, waterproof vibrator with 5 vibration patterns, 5 intensity settings, and a built-in vibrator to adapt to different erogenous zones. It has a designed smooth and soft body. The vibrations resonate throughout the toy but are concentrated at the tip. This means you get more targeted and comprehensive stimulation with a single toy. It’s a lot of fun to experiment with intensity, vibration modes, and even how to use it when touching your body (or someone else’s body).

Pom’s intuitive and ergonomic shape makes it easy to use even in the most intense combat. The button layout is simple. You can easily feel which buttons are which without looking (a big advantage), so you can quickly switch between modes and intensities.

Cute and Cuddly

Tenga Iroha Kushi

This is so cute. I love sex toys that can double as seductive decor. Shaped like a small hedgehog, iroha+ Kushi features multiple vibration intensities and patterns (plus a charging base and dust-protecting cover). It’s made of silicone and has a gel base, so it’s very soft and supple. The grooves along the back allow for fun and varied sensations no matter what genital area you use it on. This is a unique approach to sex toy design and I’m a big fan. This little guy has a forever home on my nightstand.

App Powered

MysteryVibe Crescendo 2 Flexible Vibrator + App

Sex toys are becoming more technologically sophisticated over the years. MysteryVibe’s Crescendo is a smart vibrator with an app that lets you control the toy and create and customize your own vibration patterns with 6 (!) internal motors and 16 (!!) intensity settings . It’s also flexible. You can bend it in any direction to create a shape that fits your body or someone else’s. Not to mention that it is waterproof.

Flexible Fun

Unbound Bender

Vendors are unique in that they are very flexible. It can change its shape to suit your body, providing ideal external stimulation. It’s waterproof and the vibrations aren’t as strong as a wand vibe, but they’re still effective. Plus, it’s extremely quiet even on the highest settings.

Great for the vulva and penis.

Slow Build

Lelo Sila

The first time I used Sila, I was frustrated. The gentle vibrations and gentle suction are appealing, but not in a good way – or so I thought. This toy has 8 quiet settings, and even the highest sound will be considerably quieter than what he is used to. This is intentional. Sila offers a slow build with a big payoff. The wide mouth focuses more on the surrounding erogenous zones than comparable sex toys, resulting in deeper, longer-lasting orgasms. Use with lube (or in the bathtub) during solo sex or foreplay with a partner. It will be worth the wait. – Laurin Strampe

Best for Two

Satisfyer Curvy 3+

Satisfyer’s Curvy line has been a personal favorite for a while, and their latest release, Curvy 3+, is one of the best toys I’ve tested. This is a dual purpose vibrator and air pulse stimulator. The end of the air pulse provides steady, slow and strong suction, and the other end is where you feel the vibration most clearly. Even at the highest settings the intensity is quite low, which could be a good thing. This toy is best used with a partner and enjoyed alone at a time.

Suitable for clitoris, frenulum and external play.

Double the Fun

Lelo Enigma Vibrator & Air Pulse Toy

Lelo’s Enigma is a strange toy. It looks like a Star Trek ship or a curved sculpture you’d find in a museum gift shop. Like previous Rabbit vibrators, the Enigma is designed to stimulate both the clitoris and G-spot. But instead of relying solely on vibration, Enigma’s clitoral stimulation arm features a powerful air pulse mechanism that provides suction that mimics the sensation of oral sex. There is a vibration motor on the large, round end of the toy. His body is so flexible that he can only use one end at a time, but using both at the same time provides an intense experience. Enigma blasts into space at warp speed, even if it’s moving slowly. And that’s in a good way. However, it is a little thicker at the widest part of the vibrating end. Therefore, if you are not used to toys with large diameters, work slowly and easily. Use plenty of lubricant.

Ideal for stimulating the G-spot and clitoris.

Flying Solo

Dame Arc G-Spot Vibrator

All of the devices on this list can be used with one or more partners, but Dame’s Arc is designed for solo use, and excels at that. This is a waterproof G-spot vibrator with 5 vibration patterns and 5 intensity levels, a soft semi-flexible silicone body and a soft silicone tip. The Arc’s gentle curvature is angled so you can easily reach your most sensitive areas with just one hand, and all buttons are within easy reach. The curve and wide, soft tip make it very easy to hit the G-spot. These elements make it fun to use no matter what kind of genitalia you have.

Twistable Fun

Tenga Flex

This affordable, low-profile case has an unobtrusive footprint and no obvious oversized Fleshlight design or silicone genitals. The beauty of the spiral is also functional. The outer casing is flexible so it can be rotated to create additional sensations. The soft, textured inner cover varies in strength, suction power, and noise level depending on how much lubricant you use and how well it covers the top air hole. After having sex alone, just remove the inner cover and turn it over to clean it. The lid of the housing also functions as a laundry rack.

For Backdoor Beginners

Unbound Nudge

Anal play can be scary. Nudge (formerly known as Romp) is incredibly affordable, not too big, not too small, and just the right size for beginners. The curved base holds the toy securely in place without causing discomfort. The medical grade silicone exterior is also easy to clean. Be sure to combine it with water-based lubricants. (Unbound’s Jelly is also a good option, with more recommendations below.)

Perfect for those who want to try anal stimulation.

Motion-Sensing Fun

Lelo Hugo Prostate Vibrator + Remote Control

Hugo is a remote-controlled prostate vibrator. Even if you don’t have a prostate, it works great because it has 2 powerful motors with 6 vibration modes and 12 intensity levels. It is waterproof and has an interesting feature of motion sensing. When Hugo is in motion detection mode, the intensity of the vibrations may increase or decrease simply by tilting or moving the remote. It’s great fun to use with a partner, but it’s also great for solo use.

If this is your first time using an anal toy, there’s nothing to be scared of as long as it’s the right size. Although gender-specific language is used in the packaging and product materials, the toy itself is perfect for all genders.

Suitable for P-spot stimulation.

Best Hands-Free Lube Dispenser

Pulse Warming Lube Dispenser

We’ve all experienced this. Since you’re about to engage yourself or your partner (or partners), it’s time to get some lube. But pumping a tiny bottle in the form of hand sanitizer until it squirts a cold liquid isn’t the most sensual act. Pulse dispensers solve both problems. Just plug it in, add some lube, and place your hand under the sensor. Warmed lubricant is applied directly to your hands. Additionally, if you have dexterity issues and find it difficult to pump up a bottle of lube, this dispenser will save your hands a lot of strain.

The only downside is that you have to purchase Pulse’s own lube capsules (silicone or water-based), but the dispenser comes with four out of the box. In terms of price, it is expensive compared to traditional lubricants.

Perfect for all genitals and erogenous zones.

Best Lube

Maude Shine Organic Water-Based Lube

Maude makes a lot of great products, but Shine Organic Lube stands out for me. A simple unscented water-based lubricant that stays smooth and slippery without being sticky like other water-based lubricants. You can easily rehydrate with just a little saliva, so a little goes a long way. For more tips, check out our guide to the best lubricants.

A Spa-Quality Lube

Coconu Water-Based Lubricant

Currently, most water-based lubricants are made from aloe vera gel. Although it provides an effective viscous glide, it may leave a sticky feeling on your fingers after use. If you’re looking for a cleaner finish or have an aloe allergy, Coconu’s coconut water-based lubricant is a good alternative. It’s just as slippery as an aloe-based lubricant, but your skin will feel slightly less sticky and feel slightly more moisturized after use. Plus, it comes in an adorable little bottle that looks like an expensive, spa-quality hand lotion.

Skin Care With a Secret

Rosebud Woman Honor Lubricating Balm

Rosebud Women’s Sexual Wellness Series is a luxury. It treats sexuality with respect rather than contempt, and feels more like worship than a calling. The language the company uses for its products is gender-based (not all women have vulvas, and not all people with vulvas are women), but Honor’s Everyday Balm might be my (Lauryn’s) favorite lubricant.

Consistency is like magic. Thick and refreshing, it melts into an oil at body temperature, providing intimate lubrication while softening and moisturizing the skin. That’s natural. We apply lotions and creams to other parts of our body to keep our skin healthy. Why shouldn’t you do the same for more intimate areas? Balms can be used as lubricants, moisturizers, and for postpartum massage. Honor Balm does not melt quickly, so it takes a few seconds to apply it the way you want it. No one likes handling a slippery bottle of lube when it’s hot.

How to Choose the Right Sex Toy

Shopping Tips

If you’re new to sex toys, buying your first toy can be scary. There are a lot of sex toys out there that aren’t very good and are just plain awful.

Ask yourself: What does it feel like to be touched? What kind of experience are you looking for? Are you interested in trying something new? Need something for internal or external use? Check out Oh Joy Sex Toy, a great webcomic by artist Erika Moen. A great source for toy reviews and all kinds of sex education content.

Hit the store (or YouTube): Once you have an idea of what you want to try, find a local (gender-specific) sex shop and see if they have the toys you’re interested in. Feelings, textures, weight, how vibrations feel, etc. can be acquired by actually spending time experiencing them. However, that’s not always an option. There are lots of practical videos on YouTube. It’s not as good as the feel of the toy itself, but it’s the best you can get without leaving the house. Good luck!

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